How To Help Your Perfectionist Child: A Guide For Parents

Perfectionism is not something that can be cured. It is a trait that someone has permanently. Only by understanding perfectionism can we hope to overcome it. 

Perfectionism is a positive attribute. It is about being obsessed with quality and being unafraid of challenging yourself by setting high standards for your work, ideas, and the way you live. Consequently, we should be wary about using the word ‘perfectionist’ as a pejorative term to describe someone who is fastidious or obsessive about detail. Yet, it seems that society has turned this word into a negative trait. 

Nowadays, people often throw around phrases like ‘That’s perfection!’ when they hear about somebody taking great care over something they have done or suggesting an unusual way of doing things in a particular circumstance. A perfectionist is someone who sets extremely high standards for everything they do — not just their work but also their life. A perfectionist is somebody who strives to have integrity and authenticity in every area of their life, striving to be their best self at all times.

How can perfectionism be good?

Perfectionists are great at planning their work, striving to understand every aspect of a project before they start it. They are very aware of resources and how to use them efficiently, while they are also precise and methodical people who want things to be done correctly. Perfectionists are meticulous people who are careful with details. They do not leave any room for ambiguity when they communicate because they want to make sure their message is understood. They are also very conscientious people who care deeply about other people and want to do their best to make them happy.

Why is perfectionism such a problem for many people?

It is likely that perfectionism is something that you have identified in yourself if you have found yourself struggling with this negative trait. If you have children, you may have noticed that one of them is a perfectionist. This can be problematic for a number of reasons. This could be because a person’s behavior has become disruptive. 

For example, if a perfectionist is a worker in an office, and they damage their reputation by missing deadlines or delivering below-standard work, they are creating problems for themselves and their colleagues. Another reason why perfectionism can cause problems is if it manifests itself in self-defeating or self-destructive behavior. For example, let’s say that a parent has a child who is extremely perfectionist, and they are worried that this child is going to damage their self-esteem by setting such high standards and not meeting them.

What are the symptoms of perfectionism?

While there is no doubt that perfectionism is a positive attribute and can make somebody very successful and productive, there is a fine line between striving for excellence and being unable to relax and let things go. People who struggle with perfectionism have a difficult time letting go of projects that they have completed. They often worry about making mistakes, and they have an intense amount of self-criticism. 

A perfectionist is somebody who worries about how their work will be perceived and how it will affect other people’s opinions of them. They don’t just want to do a good job; they want to do a great job. A perfectionist is a person who can’t let go of a project if they discover there is one tiny mistake in it. They sometimes suffer from imposter syndrome, a feeling that they are faking their way through life. They might also be suffering from a lack of confidence because they are always comparing themselves to other people, especially people who they see as being perfect.

Encourage a growth mindset

Perfectionists, who often have a fixed mindset, are unlikely to achieve their goals if they don’t change their ways. To help your perfectionist child, speak to them about the difference between a growth mindset and a fixed mindset. An abundance mindset lets you know that you have all the time in the world to achieve your goals. You don't have to be perfect to accomplish your objectives. Simply invest the necessary time and effort to complete the task. Knowing that you have all the resources you need to accomplish your goals is possible when you have an abundant attitude. Being the sharpest mind in the room is not necessary. 

You don't have to be the class' top student. All it takes to perform better than average is effort. You don’t need to be born with a particular skill to learn how to do something. You just need to practice that skill until you get better and better at it. A fixed mindset tells you that you have a certain amount of talent, intelligence, or creativity, and that’s it. A fixed mindset lets you know that you need to be perfect to be successful. A fixed mindset lets you know that you need to be perfect just to be liked by other people.

Don’t be afraid of failure

It is important for parents to help their perfectionist children see the benefits of failing. They need to let their children know that failing is a natural part of growing up and learning new skills. They need to let their children know that failing just means that they are challenging themselves and that they will have an opportunity to try again with more knowledge and experience behind them. Part of growing up is knowing that not everything you try will end in success. However, if your child is constantly failing, then it is very important to address this because it is likely to be damaging their self-esteem.

Set clear goals

Because perfectionists have very high standards for themselves, they may be discouraged if they don’t reach them. Therefore, it is important to set clear goals. If your child is struggling with perfectionism, then you will want to help them set realistic goals. Perfectionist is afraid of failure, so they need to learn how to set goals that are challenging but not unattainable. Setting goals for your perfectionist child is about helping them to focus on what is important and what is achievable.

Help them develop self-compassion

Perfectionists often struggle with self-compassion. This is because they compare themselves to others and find that they don’t measure up. They have extremely high standards for themselves and don’t give themselves any leeway for being human. They are often critical of themselves and don’t let their mistakes go. They are always finding flaws in their work and in their life. This is a trait that can really hurt your self-esteem, so it is important to help your perfectionist child develop self-compassion. A great way to help your child develop self-compassion is to help them identify the things they do well. Ask them what they are doing well and give them an opportunity to praise themselves.

Acknowledge their strengths and effort

Because perfectionists are so hard on themselves, they will be very quick to point out their flaws and mistakes. It is important for parents to acknowledge their strengths and effort, even when they are not perfect. If your child is striving for perfection, then it is important to help them understand that trying their best is good enough.

Conclusion

Perfectionism is frequently regarded as a positive quality. It can, however, also be seriously harmful. Perfectionism can have negative effects on both an individual and the people around them. Therefore, it's critical to recognize its warning signs. There are ways to overcome perfectionism and help those who are struggling with it. 

However, it is important to understand that perfectionism is not something that can be cured. It is a trait that someone has and will have for the rest of their lives. Only by understanding perfectionism can we hope to overcome it. Visit Kidsactivitypage.com to learn more about helping your children overcome perfectionism.

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